Let me know if I can help you.
How many times have you said that? You’re a caregiver, so I’m sure you offer to help all the time.
But, how many times has someone actually let you know that you can help them? If you’re like most caregivers, it’s shockingly low.
Caregivers want to help. You’re full of empathy and experience, so you have tons of ideas that will make your loved one's life better.
So, why don’t more people take caregivers up on their offers to help?
Because your offer lacks specificity.
There are a couple of ways to add specificity to your offer. One of the best is simply by giving a reason why. The next time you offer to help your loved one, add the word because.
Take a look at how that simple fix transforms the first line of this post:
Let me know if I can help you, because you’ve always been there to help me.
Much more compelling isn’t it?
Another way to add specificity is to be specific. You’re allowed to roll your eyes. But, I’m not kidding. Instead of saying, “let me know if I can help you,” try to propose something clear-cut.
See how this fixes the first original offer:
Let me know if I can help you organize your medicine on Saturday at 2:30.
There’s no chance your loved one will shrug off that offer as just being polite. Instead, she’ll understand that you really want to help her. You’ve even given her exactly how and when you’ll help. That’s a nicety she’ll appreciate.
The next time you want to help your loved one, tell her why and be specific. Then, drop me a note and let me know how it goes.